Saturday, August 20, 2011

been busy... and so tired

I have been so busy working and being exhausted with this pregnancy that i have not had any time to write or even read blogs. I finally thought of a name for the baby.  I prayed about it and asked God to help me. I had a feeling He answered back and let me know it would just hit me. I had a strong feeling about the first name that she was a Rachel. I LOVE the bible story about Rachel and Leah and how Jacob LOVED Rachel and worked 14 years on her fathers farm for her. I dont like how they competed with each other and their lives revolved around men. One man. Jacob. But I do love Rachel. And my baby feels like a Rachel. It means Peace of God. And the middle name that was stressing me out finally hit me. My mom's name. Frances. It means free!! And it means From France. If you know me at all you will know I love France, I want to move there, and I feel like I am from there. So that blew me away when I all of a sudden thought of it and decided to look it up. I suddenly felt peace and the wieght and worry of a name lifted off of me. Rachel Frances. Sounds like the 1930's or 40's too. Why i like it even MORE!

I posted this on my sister's fb wall about the name Rachel:



I was just reading the story of Rachel and Leah. omg how sad their lives were back then. it revolved around MEN! my favorite was when Rachel said to Jacob: GIVE ME A SON OR I WILL DIE! and he says, "AM I GOD?" That's actually amusing. the pathetic part is when Leah is like "oh! surely he will love me now! i gave him 4 sons!" So Rachel, who cant be outdone by her sister, gives him her servant to ha...ve more boys. And Leah does the same. I mean, how pathetic. their lives revolved around men! And they werent fulfilled unless their men loved them. Its about as pathetic as a wife who "supports" her husband when he cheated on her and was in love with another woman and never really loved her. How pathetic. Women need to focus on themselves and not men. (Thats what i am learning to do and I'm much better off.)

That last part was about the scumbag's PATHETIC wife who he DOES NOT love or respect! She has no respect for herself obviously. So what is she gonna do when the paternity test comes out positive? I dreampt of him last night that he was envious of me holding kissing and loving the baby. And he wanted to be a part of it but was still trapped in his "situation." Im sure thats how he will be. GO FUCK YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!

Guaranteed he comes back like they all do. Who else did? The dominican and a guy from a year ago I went out with ONCE. They all come back. All of them. I dont know why they do, they just do.  I must be very different than other women i guess. I have finally learned from my friend Mike how a man is supposed to treat a woman. Now that I have seen this I will never be with an asshole again. And Dickface is an asshole. I would never want to be with him again. I hope he comes back and regrets everything and feels like a damn fool. And i'll remind him of all the horrible things he did to me and all the great things i did for him. I still think about all the fun things we did and all the times we kissed and stuff and how much i truly loved him. Then I think about what a pathetic coward he is and how horribly mean and selfish he was and how he said such hateful things about my baby and I say good riddens you scum.

Anyway I am 31 weeks now! In only 6 weeks I will be full term! Can you believe that? Well heres a picture of my belly. :)



4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Ya know what... I am completely jealous of the fact that you are having a baby.

The fact is, I have wanted a baby for almost 6 years and in that time I've suffered 4 miscarriages. I'd go through another 4 just to be able to bring a baby to full term.

So how about trying to be grateful for the gift you have been given that millions of infertile women around the world would give their right arm for.

Is it not enough that you have been blessed with what we have fought so hard and failed to get, without focusing on what you DON'T have? How about investing your energy into the impending birth and how to live your best life with your child rather than focusing so hard on this dickhead who denies paternity!

whaatamithinking said...

ouch. in response to that, I do say that all the time. I tell people there are so many women who would do anything to get pregnant and I am blessed. However, it is near impossible to NOT think of him when I still see his old office every day, his name on the mass emails, his baby inside me, and the pain I feel every day trying to grasp why and how he could be so horrible, and being scared to check my mail for fear of another letter from the lawyer. Not to mention, this blog was originally about him so I feel like I should post about him. I certainly dont have to. Just didnt think anyone really cared about all the other stuff. I have been trying to focus on myself which is why i havent written on here in a while. I have been working and pursuing other things as well as trying to rest. Also, I am so sorry you had to go through that. I had that one miscarriage and it was the worst thing I ever experienced next to the abortion that I still and will always regret. Its just very hard for me to NOT BE ANGRY. I guess time will heal.

Anonymous said...

Wow Anon!

She is very grateful for this baby and will be a gr8 mom (already is).

He truely loved her, until he got busted and their will always be drama, the test coming up, and the fact this guy is looking at 18 years of support. He laid in that bed and now hes's gotta live with that even past 18 years (of mental support).

People always say 18 years but in true reality, this child will always be in his life forever way past the 18 years that too is a fact of life. The 18 years is just the support payments. I think she has done a wonderful job mentally accepting his asshole ways and the fact he got busted (takes two to tangle).

Linda

Anonymous said...

What's going on luv? Anything new to report? Think about you alot!

Linda