I cant believe it

I met someone new.  And I have no desire to kiss or touch the muffin man. (and in response to the last post's comments, no i was NOT trying to trap him. I am just careless and a fool and I learned my lesson. Im getting an IUD thing)

Here is the story.

I went to Vegas with my gay friend. We flew to Phoenix where we had an hour layover.  We went to get something to eat and my friend pointed out a "hot army guy." I turn around to look and all I saw was this tall dark and handsome guy next to him. "hes not cute. But his friend is gorgeous" I went to get a soda and I almost walked into him. My face could only see his chest as he is 6'1" and I am only 5'3". He said "excuse me" as i could barely talk... i just watched him walk by flustered. Goodbye hot guy. I'll never see you again.

We go to the gate where a hysterical young woman comes running up to me.  We just learned our gate was moved to another gate. She can barely speak as she gasps for air.  "you dont understand! I just missed my flight I cant miss another one!" "okay dont worry," i said, as I put my arm around her, "follow me and I'll get you where you need to go. We wont miss it. We have plenty of time"  I brought her to the gate where she collapsed on the floor in relief. I went next door to buy her a water and a magazine.  When i brought it back I let her tell me about her kids at home and the story of how she missed the flight etc. I consoled her, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and got up. "I'm Jill by the way" We introduced ourselves, and i went to sit with my friend.

As we sat on the plane in our seats, front row of coach, we watched a lot of people come on. There was a rowdy guy behind me. Jill came on and waved and said, "Hi! I'm much better thank you so much!" I replied, "Good! you look great Jill!" "Do I look great?" I hear from Mr. Rowdy behind me. "Oh you look FANTASTIC!" Now we have the attention of all the people around us who are chuckling at our conversation.  We proceeded to point out all the hot men and women boarding, as we whispered comments. I said "WAIT until you see this HOT GUY comin on the plane! Tall dark and handsome!" (I saw Mr. soda machine waiting at our gate.) I'm waiting and waiting and FINALLY he comes on. The rowdy guy knew immediately who it was! He points and whispers "is that him?" I nod and mouth back "thats him!"

"excuse me!" he calls out to the hot guy. "uh, she thinks youre hot!" and points to me. "who thinks I'm hot?" "ME! OVER HERE!" I call out as I wave my hand up like I'm in school being called on. He looks at me and asks, "whats your name?" "___" "He reaches his hand out to shake mine and says "nice to meet you, ___ , I'll speak to you after the flight" "okay! but you gotta see me with nice clothes on and make up on and stuff! I look kinda crappy now" "oh thats ok, I dont even have a change of clothes<" he says. "YOU DONT NEED CLOTHES!" i call out as he walks back to his seat. Everyone on the plane in earshot laughs out loud. "Yep," Mr. Rowdy says, "shes goin to Vegas all right! You're definitely gonna have a good time"

I get off the plane and walk sloooowly hoping he'll come talk to me. But then I say to myself, oh please hes not coming, and we walk a little faster now. All of a sudden he come sup to me from behind. We trade numbers and I find out hes not even gonna be in Vegas! He's from North Carolina. I'll never see him again. But wait! I remember our plane has a layover on the way back at none other than Charlotte, NC where he's from! "let me see your tickets" he says as I find out he works for the airline. "If you remember me after your Vegas trip, I'll meet you at the gate in Charlotte."

We texted each other the whole trip, he met us at the gate with starbucks and upgraded our tickets to first class. I spent an hour with him and he sent me back to my gate as he was supposed to be working! He even had me paged at the gate where he called me on the phone. He was just so cute. "Hello Beautiful" I hear on the other end. He made me feel very special that day.

I have not stopped communication with him since the airport and he came to visit new years eve until tuesday night. My racist, prejudiced, homophobic, judgemental mother was staying with me until Sunday and she made is horrible. I thought for sure he would have left on Saturday. She wouldnt acknowledge him. Wouldnt say a word.  We slept at my friends house Saturday night to be away from her.  I had to leave him there where he was welcome while i taught Sunday School. When I came home, I got in a big fight with my mom as she tried to come up with reasons to hate him. "I cant believe you would bring home some random BLACK guy who is clearly only using you for sex! He'll probably get you pregnant or give you AIDS!" "HES NOT BLACK!!!!!!!!!!!!! H E IS NOT BLACK!!! Get it through your head! He's dominican! And so what if he WAS black? I thought he was black at first, didnt bother me!" I had to defend myself and him over and over and over. Yes i saw his ID, and I saw his badge at work, and he went to college, and he has his own money, and he bought you your sandwich, and works for the government for the airline therefor he is not a murderer, hes NOT BLACK, hes NOT a liar, hes NOT married, he is NOT using me for sex, etc etc. I was so mad at her I was screaming and crying and had to leave. She has now made it her mission to find something wrong with him.

My friends all tell me he's too young, or he's just a rebound guy, or he lives too far, it will never work, or this won't last so just have fun for now. My mother is clearly against it, and muffin man is freeeakking out. He wants me so badly now... please. Now that I am moving on you want me??? Seriously??? The other men in my life are all also very jealous. When he came to visit I was so happy. We both were! He makes me feel like a woman. He is the personality that he takes control with the "manly" things like driving and paying for things, and holds me when I cry, and tells me how beautiful I am. And he likes when I take care of him by making him dinner or giving him a vitamin or cuddling with him and warming him up when hes cold.  When he left he sent me a text message that said "I need my vitamin" He said he wants me to come visit him so I can paint all day and rest. And  let him take care of me.

This new guy is a dream. And the sex is incredible. He does all the things I have BEGGED the other guys to do and wouldnt do it or couldnt. He is rough and I love it! And he kisses me passionately. I know how he feels about me in his kiss. It changed as the days went on. He flew his sister up Monday night and we went out. The 2 of them have texted me "I miss you" and his sis said "he NEVER introduces me to any girls! I was shocked" 

This week at work, the muffin man has been nasty because he is freaking out he's losing me and cant control his emotions. Well I told him, "guess what douchebag! This is how I have felt every single day the last two years of my life!" I had no desire to kiss him or touch him. The feelings dissipated. I'm so happy with the new guy I have no desire to lust after, love, or date anyone else.  It was love at first sight...at the soda machine. (kidding) Not sure how to handle the mm at work though. He kissed me today and I was kind of MAD! I pulled away. I told him "how dare you. You want to pull me back to you to this dead end situation? and keep me in this pain when i found someone to make me happy?" he got mad and stormed away. I told him "too little, too late buddy. I told you you'd regret it."

I have never had so many people hating on my relationship with someone I am happy with! Not sure what to think of it. I had a good feeling in my gut about him and he told me his mother taught him to never pass up an opportunity because you never know what will happen. I am thankful he followed that advice. We make each other very happy. I will post the picture of us for a couple days and then I am taking it down. Tell me what you think.